"The bourgeois family in its “classic” phase was not marginal or threatened, but secure and independent. Not its numerical frequency, but unique configuration of authority and affection is the issue. Authority was severe, but not brutal or inconsistent. Total submission was not the goal; nor was the family lacking in warmth. This is not to say there were no victims; there were, especially women. These victims furnished the patients for psychoanalysis.
The bourgeois family, it seems likely, developed into the narcissistic family; the class composition remains roughly the same. The case reports of narcissistic patients allow fleeting views of family life; these do not show parents who, after long, grueling days of waiting on tables or driving cabs, come home to bark at their too many children; but parents who are relatively successful, whose energies are directed towards themselves and their careers; and who tend to be enlightened but also cold to the few children at home.
That narcissism may be circumscribed by class does not, of course, dispose of it. The bourgeoisie makes society in its own image.”
— Russell Jacoby “Narcissism and the Crisis of Capitalism” in Telos (1980)